Written by Nichole Richardson on June 12, Share on Pinterest Take time to create a space that is special for the children, and gives them some personal ownership. There is an informal debate about whether or not opposite-sexed siblings should be allowed to share a bedroom and, if so, for how long.
What's the Problem with School? Judging Our Boys "Too often, we disapprove of what's in boys' minds, both in school and at home. Boys' mothers and female teachers find some of their favorite thoughts, like 'good guys making the world safe by killing bad guys,' disturbing. Afraid that these thoughts indicate a worrisome propensity to violence, adults try to prohibit these thoughts and the toys that represent them, although boys see images all around them encouraging the fantasies and recommending the toys.
Prohibited from the physical activity they need, criticized for the content of their minds, and required to do work they cannot do as well as the little girls around them, it is not surprising that some of these boys get off to a bad start, giving up before they have begun.
Author, Under Deadman's Skin: Discovering the Meaning of Children's Violent Play. While there has been great and valid concern about the achievements of girls in our educational system, most of the gains in American education over the last thirty years have been achieved by girls.
So what's happening to America's boys when they go to school? The average boy is less mature than the average girl when he starts school. By school age, the average boy is less mature socially, less verbal, and more active than most of the girls. Schools, not boys, have changed.
Children are now taught to read in kindergarten when many young boys are not as skilled verbally as girls. Some first grade teachers actually preferred that children learn the alphabet in first grade, where they could learn to do it 'the right way'! This is true not only in the United States, but also in each of the 30 countries involved in a recent international study.
I feel that boys in the United States develop an idea early on that they are not good at the kind of literacy schools require. And then a deficit or problem becomes an identity. By the time boys reach middle school, or even the upper elementary grades, they lack the fluency and sometimes practice to be successful.
When they reach high school they develop coping strategies where they fake it," comments Thomas Newkirk, Ph.
Boys are more active than many girls and have trouble sitting still for long periods of time. Experts agree that physical play is essential for boys and girls, particularly young children in the motor stage of development. In fact, moving around helps them learn. But many schools have cut down on recess and outdoor play in order to make time for meeting state academic requirements.
Our demand for more and earlier skills, of exactly the type that boys are less able to master than girls, makes them feel like failures at an early age," says Jane Katch.
It's appropriate to expect for kids to sit still for part of the day, but not all of the day," adds Joseph Tobin.
Many schools don't offer enough hands-on learning opportunities. Boys may be disadvantaged when they don't get to learn through their bodies, by touching and moving. However, with the new academic push and focus on literacy we see that type of learning relegated to 'play areas,' and even these areas have been taken out of some kindergarten and even preschool classes.
So with the emphasis on reading, there is an imbalance — an over-focus on reading instead of manipulating actual things," explains Tobin.
Most elementary school teachers are women. Therefore, there are few male models for learning as a masculine pursuit. Girls often feel that you can be a successful girl and woman by doing well in school," adds Thompson. Many female teachers may unconsciously prefer girls' interests diaries and first-person narratives over boys' interests like comic books and science fiction.
Since almost all teachers of young children are women, books they are most enthusiastic about are generally more feminine than masculine in taste. It's not that boys aren't interested in a good story, but their non-narrative interests are not always supported and female teachers are often uncomfortable with the narrative themes boys find more interesting, like science fiction, robots, machines, etc.Boys should not feel guilty about wanting time alone with other boys.
This is a time for them to be themselves and not worry about what the girls think.
Even adults can have some issues with resentment when they do not get to have time with friends of the same gender.
Take time to create a space that is special for the children, and gives them some personal ownership. There is an informal debate about whether or not opposite-sexed siblings should be allowed to.
Many interpret the law to mean that girls should not necessarily play sports with boys, but should have sports teams of their own. For example, during boys basketball season, girls basketball is offered; the same goes for swimming and track.
Teaching little boys not to hit little girls simply because they are girls reenforces notions of patriarchy and sexism.
For those who don’t know, patriarchy is “a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it.”.
On the other hand, boys and girls should interact with each other as teenagers because it helps them to learn how to deal with each other early on and they can avoid some awkward social behavior later when they have to deal with each other in adult life.
I think boys and girls should be in different schools because some girls and boys do not get along with each other. I think it is easier to talk to girls better than boys. Sometimes boys get on people's nerves.